Thursday, August 9, 2007
posted on: 12:56 AM
Are you ready? Let the games begin!
- Is she waging psychological warfare on you?
Take the quiz to see if you’re caught up in your woman’s mind games!
All evidence points to women being far more ‘playful’, in a manner of speaking, when it comes to manipulating relationship. And guys get caught up in it all the time. Or maybe women just have a complicated form of language that we have trouble deciphering. Whatever the case may be, read on and see if you are unwittingly played the fool.
1) - You’re having a group date-slash-reunion with some buddies whom you haven’t seen in years. First on the agenda is a concert and it’s important to be there on time. When you arrive at your girlfriend’s place to pick her up:
A - She’s yakking on the phone with her friend, and taking her time dressing up, which she always does when it not ‘her thing’. Worst, she nonchalantly informs you that she is going after all.
B - She’s still dressing and apologies profusely, but the truth is, she had totally forgotten about it.
C - She’s been dressed and ready for the past hour. You’re dead meat, my friend.
2) - It’s Thursday night and you’re sending your girlfriend home. From out of nowhere, she mentions that she’d like to have a ‘nice’ dinner the next night, which incidentally is a Friday, and the eve of a public holiday. Your Highness requires that it be at:
A - Her favourite five-star restaurant, which aside from being known for their mind-boggling expensive cuisine, has a reservation waiting list of about a month. If you don’t get a slot there, she says she’ll just go out with her friends.
B - Her favourite five-star restaurant. Upon explaining that chances of getting a reservation is as slim as winning the lottery, she pulls out her list of alternative restaurant. “You’ve got one day, buster,” she hisses.
C - Any place, as long as you’re together. Beads of sweat form on your temple, but thankfully you are saved.
3) - Your honey is one hot babe. And she knows as much. In fact she’s been teasing you the whole day on the phone, leaving you panting like a Siberian Husky in humid Singapore. When you arrive at her place, she throws the curve ball; She needs you to rearrange some furniture at home, and then while you’re at it, run a few errands too. What’s the deal?
A - It’s a case of ‘fix her pipes before she fixes yours’. She won’t get some until you do something for her. If not, tough luck!
B - She completes her sexy overtures with a coy ‘pretty please’ and a smile thrown in. With much grumbling, you give in. But boy, does she gives you something back in return!
C - You say you can’t do it right now--and she still goes to bed with you! What do you know, there is a God after all! Recharged, you help her anyway.
4) - Guess what. It’s time to do the dishes. As for the question of who that’s up in the air. After a few second of awkward silence, you say you’ll do it. Then she says it’s okay, she’ll do it instead. Later that night:
A - She’s in a very, very, very foul mood. After much prodding, you find out that she’s mad because you didn’t do the dishes! Congratulations! You’ve been a victim of the phenomena called ‘reverse psychology’ What the…?
B - She seems upset. After some prodding, she says that it’s because you should have known that she’d want your help. Huh?
C - The dishes are spick and span. Poor thing looks tired so you make her a cup of tea and giver her a quick massage. Seems like she really didn’t mind doing the dishes. Next time it’s your turn.
5) - She’s going to her friend’s ‘exclusive’ party. While you’re driving her to the party, you’re thinking…
A - Why do I feel like her chauffeur? I drive her to these places and she always says, I can’t go. And I have to pick her up every single time, unless she gets a ride with someone else. Why, God?
B - I’ve been introduce to her friend Shelia so I can probably go to the party. But she hasn’t told me I could. I don’t want to be stuck at home on a Friday night. But she may or may not invite me in. I should call my pals to see if they’ve got something on. Just in case….
C - Damn, where should I park? I knew should’ve worn that other shirt instead. I must make a good impression, I must.
6) - Yesterday, you bought her a bouquet of petunias instead of her all-favourite lilies. Today, you forgot to mail that all-important, ‘life-or-death’ package like she asked you to. As you stand there quivering in your shoes, she says,
A - “Why can’t you be like Jessica’s boyfriend or Ellen’s husband or blah blah…” (you get the point)
B - “Why can’t you be less of a scatter-brain and be more aware of my feelings and needs and what I want?
C - “I might kill you in future, honey, but I love you. Grrr.”
7) - It’s Champions’ League night you’re watching the Barcelona versus Chelsea match with an intensity that rivals that of a lion stalking prey. And then your girlfriend shows up and plants herself in front of the TV and says, “We need to talk. Now.” You raise your hand absentmindedly and it suggests to her she’s being dismissed. What does she do?
A - She doesn’t budge as well, gives you a piercing look and screams, “Listen to me!” After which, hell erupts and she goes on about why she’s never taken seriously. One by one, your past transgressions are unearthed.
B - She moves aside. But from thereon, it’s a quiet, quiet night in your house. The tension is so palpable you can cut it with a butter knife--if she doesn’t cut you up first!
C - She sit down beside you and waits patiently for the commercial break. This is one of her tests to see who you’ll prioritise ---her or football. She’s giving you the chance--- so you grab it!
8) - You’re in a relationship that’s barely a few months old but somehow, the once-stroked fires are now just simmering, You’ve rarely gone out on dates and when you call to ask her out, more or less she’ll say
A - She’s busy and will return your call much, much later. Sometimes she just ignores you. And generally, she’ll just want to go out because she’s ‘bored’.
B - She can’t go because she’s busy. That’s most of the time. But it’s true-- she’ll go into the details if you let her. Which you will, because it’s the only time she’ll make time for you.
C - Okay, let’s go. But she also makes it clear that she’s really busy.
9) - You and your girlfriend are a bar for her company’s new perfume product party launch. She’s always had a preference for hunky guys and guess what, they’re all over the place! She knows how uneasy you feel about this but what does she do?
A - She’s like a tigress on the prowl. The light of your life has discreetly left you in one corner and she’s going around flirting with them. B***h!
B - She’s doing the rounds---it’s her company after all--and you catch her looking at him. And him. And him. And she knows that you know.
C - She assures you that there’s nothing to worry about. Now that you think about it, you don’t feel worried at all!
10) - Out of the blue, your better half is acting like the worst half. Hurricane Girlfriend had made landfall and she’s throwing tantrums, getting bitchy and is picking on you-- for no apparent reason! When you put your foot down (with the hopes of not getting bitten in the process) to confront her, she
A - Throws an even bigger tantrum. You’re caught up in her fury as she throws the vase, and after that, it’s the kitchen sink!
B - Is still on the warpath and you’re circling her warily, but she’s actually listening to you. You can put down that pillow you’re holding up for protection.
C - Clams up and after a few minutes of letting her calm down, you carefully and slowly talk about it. Whatever ‘it’ is.
ANSWERS:
More As - You are definitely in big trouble. She has you in the palm of her hand and is in total control of the relationship. And even if you don’t want to admit it, you are afraid of her. She does not give in and more often than not, she’s the one holding the reins. This is not an equal relationship and you might have bitten off more than you can chew.
More Bs - There are signs of unequal relationship and she definitely exercising her rights to play with your mind. Better be careful as you’re probably at the brink of losing whatever control you have in the relationship. But she may or not be aware of the situation. Well, who are we kidding? She is aware, but there’s also a glimmer of hope that all’s not bad. You better sit down and have a talk with her. It’s time to hoist up the flag of men everywhere.
More Cs - You’re in the black. You have a normal relationship and what you sometimes go through is called ‘squabbling’ among decent folk. Communication isn’t easy but at least you don’t have to hoist the white flag just to speak up.
Dessy Desmond Tan.
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